There are lots of perks to living in the country. I never knew when we moved here that one would be amazing individuals who do kind things for people they don't know. One of the farms down the road every year plants sunflowers for people to stop and cut for free. It is great! for a month we have fresh flowers in the house and they look amazing!
I am but a weepy willow when it comes to my family and life events. At work I am all business, but when it comes to my personal life I am a crier. I cry when sad, I cry when happy, I cry when something tugs at my heart. This past weekend my brother married his better half. And of course I cried! I was incredibly happy for them that they were starting off their life together as husband and wife. They have been together for a long time, and while some say that it is only a paper, they are wrong. It is so much more. It says that legally you are a family, you immediately get rights that you didn't have before. You become a pair that can be refereed to as the X family. As I watched the beautiful bride come down the aisle I started to tear up, she was glowing flanked with her parents on each side. At that moment I remembered my own wedding and how I felt. I thought about what is next in their lives, all the moments that they will share. All the love that is contained in that one ceremony. My brother is much younger than I, it also reminds me about how much older we have all gotten. I sat at a table after the ceremony with our family friends. I remember some of their weddings like it was just yesterday, when in reality it was over 10 years ago. 2 sets were married while I was in college over 13 years ago, 1 was married 11 years ago, I was married 5 years ago.
I also made others cry. I was asked to speak and the wedding. I waited a long time to write what I was going to say. I had been working a lot and wanted it to be special, something personal, something from my heart to theirs:
True love is a sacred flame
That burns eternally,
And none can dim its special glow
Or change its destiny.
True love speaks in tender tones
And hears with gentle ear,
True love gives with open heart
And true love conquers fear.
True love makes no harsh demands
It neither rules nor binds,
And true love holds with gentle hands
The hearts that it entwines.
There are a few other items that True love is, if may take a few years of marriage but hopefully you will also get to see these true love forms.
True love is remembering to take the trash out every Tuesday night.
True love is dealing with your spouses addiction to watching TV in bed. But still allowing her to fall asleep to the sound of the TV before you turn it off.
True love is holding your spouses hand while you little bundle of joy is being delivered, sometimes way earlier then they should be, spending those first few moments after they are born as a complete family.
True love is after multiple years of marriage, still wanting to spend alone time with each other. As we get busier with work and all that life has going on, True Love is wanting to skip a night out with friends, because you would rather spend that time with your spouse.
And finally True love is knowing that at the end of the day when you come home from what ever issues you have had, your spouse will be there to tell you that they love you, give you that kiss on the forehead and knowing inside that nothing else truly matters because as long as you have their love, that is all that is truly needed.
I wish you many years of True Love.
But to my brother and his wife I wish you all the happiness in the world.